MAD 3. No Matter What YOU Do... You WILL Be Criticised. So WHAT..!

This world is so full of different people with differing opinions, morals, values and vested-interests that, no matter what you do... some people will LOVE what you do... some people will hate what you do... and some people won't have a clue who you are or what you do.

For anyone with a fragile ego... or an ego that needs to be continually stroked... this can come as a serious blow to their self-image.

Here is the harsh truth about life.

Some folks will love you.. some will hate you... some won't give two hoots for you... SO WHAT..!

Do the BEST you can anyway.

Which reminds me of a fantastic piece of philosophy, that has had an enormous impact on my life, originally brought to my attention by Rev. Robert Schuller.

He discovered this in the Readers Digest, December 1982, entitled 'ANYWAY'... it reads:

People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centred...

Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives...

Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will make false friends and true enemies...

Succeed anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable...

Be honest and frank anyway.

The good you today will be forgotten tomorrow...

Do good anyway.

The biggest people with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest people with the smallest minds...

Think big anyway.

People favour underdogs but follow only top dogs...

Fight for some underdogs anyway.

What you spent years building may be destroyed overnight...

Build anyway.

Give the world the best you've got and you'll get kicked in the teeth...

Give the world the best you've got anyway.

Regards
Trevor Nel - 011 - 705-2790 - www.innercircleforum.com
trevor@innercircleforum.com

MAD 2. YOU Will Be 'Judged' By What You DO… Not By What You Say..!

Never before in the history of the world have so many ineffectual, unworthy, uninspiring 'talkers' had the unadulterated gall to stand up on public platforms to espouse their views on 'leadership'... and who have never, ever shown any past ability to lead themselves out of a brown paper-bag.

People are sick and tired of listening to 'talkers' who never deliver... 'talkers' who do precisely the opposite of what they advise everyone else to do. Talk is cheap..!

People follow and respect those who 'walk their talk'... who DO what they say... who deliberately take ACTION to deliver on their promises... and make good on their commitments.

YOU will be 'judged' by what you DO... and not by what you say. People will 'judge' you by your ACTIONS.

Regards
Trevor Nel - 011 - 705-2790 - www.innercircleforum.com
trevor@innercircleforum.com

MAD 1. Know That YOU Are A 'Role Model' To Someone..!

Yes, it's a frightening thought, isn't it..? To know that someone, somewhere, looks up to you as a role model.

Someone would just love to have your life... to do what you do... to have what you have... to be just like you.

And... how good a role model do you believe you are to that 'someone'..?

Are you truly proud of who YOU are, of what you do... and of the things you stand for..?

If you are... that is FANTASTIC... because, here is our problem in this world today - we live in a very IMPRESSIONABLE society.

And... everybody... yes, including you, is a 'role model' to someone else... for better or for worse.!

Whether you are a legend, a hero, a champion... a beggar, a thief, a fool... know that YOU are a 'role model' to someone..!

Yes, you had better believe it... everyone has 'someone' looking up to them... someone who wants to emulate what they do.

For me, that is the most frightening, and the most exciting of insights anyone can have about our society.

Frightening because... it explains why supposedly 'intelligent' people can follow depraved despots into the mass genocide of millions of innocent people... why gangs of people form evil crime-syndicates to rip-off honest, law-abiding citizens... why many, many people get sucked into the despair of mind-numbing, financially-crippling drug addiction.

Mostly all follow the lead of someone they mistakenly 'admire' as a 'role model' for their finery, their power, or some other surface-level attraction.

Yet... it is also an EXCITING revelation because... it means that YOU are responsible for the way that some people will act and behave in the world..!

It means that YOU can make a meaningful difference in the world... just by being the person you are.

It means that, right now, YOU are either having a POSITIVE or a NEGATIVE effect (there is no in-between) on the world through your impact on other people.

That is awesome knowledge if you choose to apply yourself to being a QUALITY Role Model. You can literally begin changing the world... one person at a time.

Regards
Trevor Nel - 011 - 705-2790 - www.innercircleforum.com
trevor@innercircleforum.com

Walk YOUR Talk!

Now, here's what I want you to know... many have said that I have been blessed with a God-Given GIFT to help people to change their lives for the better.

Well, I'm not too sure about having been Divinely singled-out to receive this GIFT. I do, however, believe that God has blessed us ALL with the ability to help people to change their lives for the better.

'No One Can Teach You That Which They Have Not Done' - Tom Hopkins

Please understand one thing... there is a lot of reference to 'I', 'me' and 'my' in this copy. I want you to understand that this is not meant to be self-serving in any way, but merely the opening of my heart and sharing from my soul the thoughts of a very ordinary joe, coming from an extremely humble background (some would say church-mouse poor) and having achieved what others say are EXTRAORDINARY things. I can only share what is in my heart and mind right now... and it IS personal.

This is my personal contribution to YOU... and I am happy to keep it personal between us like this, if YOU are... :-)

Here's How YOU can Receive Magnificent 'Thank-You' Testimonials Just Like This:

Hi Trevor, 'Thank you once again for all the hours of effort you put in on our behalf – we are very blessed to have a leader like you! The ongoing information, knowledge and inspiration we gain from you will stand us in good stead for many years to come. The session was so inspirational... you gave us so much valuable information. What I gained most, learnt from and excited me, was being able to experience the structure you have established as your base from which to operate, and the insight gained from this exercise. It has inspired me to do the same in my life with my dreams and goals. I am simply drinking it all in and learning as much as possible. I look forward to the future.' Regards, Dee Thomas

Here is an example of the type of information - just 10 simple, personal life-changing observations - I have shared with the thousands of people I have met wherever I go... and why they are given to sending me such thankful testimonials.

Sit back... relax... and ENJOY..!

Regards
Trevor Nel - 011 - 705-2790 - www.innercircleforum.com
trevor@innercircleforum.com

Thank-You's, Compliments & Testimonials

This from one of my old promo pages from a few years ago ago (perhaps good to keep these things on record I suppose):

Trevor Nel - S.A.'s Leading CHANGE-AGENT
Personal - Business - Community
Proven Developer of Multi-Million Rand Projects
'He WALKS His TALK'

How does one measure one's success in life..? Simple... you don't... you go out there and do the best YOU can in your chosen endeavours to please YOU... and let other people give you their measure of your success by their thank-you's... if they really want to... :-)

If you go out looking for compliments you are likely to be disappointed. If you go out looking to achieve your own happiness in life with integrity... the compliments come flowing in.

Each year Trevor has had the wonderful privilege of receiving many 100's of unsolicited thank-you letters from folks grateful for the impact he has had on their lives.

As Trevor travels the country... sharing his own Personal, Business and Community experiences and views on Success... he shares a quick selection of some of the thank-you messages on file to show you how people feel when YOU take the time to make a difference in their lives.

Thank-you's are FOOD for the soul... ;-)

Personal

1. Hi Trevor, It's good to have you back! It feels like you are the heartbeat of business and you shine a BIG bright light making this world look like a dream place of opportunity and possibility, all packed neatly into your emails ... a nice, warm, fuzzy feeling! Just by the way, one can feel your heart and it feels good to have someone around who cares and keeps being the good shepherd. Thanks and God bless... Debbie

2. Hi Trevor, Welcome Back from the Fairest Cape – my home town. Your holiday brought back many good memories for me. That’s going to be my destination next year during the festive season – for an AWESOME break with friends and family! It’s always good to hear from you as you write such uplifting and informative e-mails. Here’s wishing you and your family a GREAT YEAR, FILLED WITH NEW CHALLENGES AND SUCCESS. Kindest regards, Rene Ring

3. Trevor, Just to echo the mails at the bottom. You are superb and it has been one of my finest pleasures getting to meet you and Tony. As I said this morning, the energy you exude is phenomenal and your integrity goes without saying - it is of the highest quality. Lynda Fussell

Business

1. Hi Trevor, Thank you for the infomation you're sending us. As I mentioned before, my life and that of my family has changed due to your inspiration and the articles I have been receiving. I am still using the process of sharing this idea with friends and those I meet. Thank you Martin

2. Trevor, "Just" a compliment and thanks. I have spent the last 2 hours reading your book 'Another Great Day In Africa' and your web links galore..etc,etc,etc. Really amazing how much you have produced in what appears such a short time. Commitment and dedication to the idea keeps it going. Fantastic that your efforts can be made so easily and readily available to the entire world! Thank you, George Savage

3. Hi Trevor, Just a short note to say thanks once again for last Friday at our Business Forum. Jean sent me an e-mail in appreciation, and I quote: '...met sprekers soos Trevor, raak mens weer bewus van die belangrikheid om jouself te omring met positiewe mense. Trevor het daarin geslaag om weer die lekker van die lewe, en die lekker van besigheid, te bevestig. Dra asseblief my waardering aan Trevor en die span oor'. Enough said! Groetnis Chris

4. Trevor, Thanks! You and your group are the most professional team I have ever seen. I'm am so excited to have the chance to work with you. Thanks for your Leadership, Eddie Terranova

5. Hi Trevor, Juvio is one of those fantastic business opportunities that present themselves only on very rare occasions. I am fully committed to do whatever it takes - I like your analogy of R1 million in the bank - that is my goal for 12 months down the line. The incredible support provided by you and the team makes this business a winner in all respects. My heartfelt thanks for the opportunity and the support. Many thanks and kind regards... Vic Burrows

6. Thanks Trev... for ALL of the background efforts as well as the time you put in for all of us. Viv Brown

7. Dear Trevor, Having spoken to Eunice yesterday and having heard of the success she has enjoyed from INNER Circle, I realise that I cannot afford to miss a meeting, neither can any other business person. Janis Bryden

8. Well done Trevor, the pending visit from Steve is amazing, little old South Africa has got someone's attention... you must be very proud of what you have started in a short time frame. Who thought INNER Circle would have resulted in this! Good stuff big guy!! Iain Johnstone

9. Hi Trevor, I would like to first of all say thank you for inspiring me to take the final leap of faith and start my own business. Thank you very much. Ursula Gouws

Community - (a good few 100 on file this year alone :-)

1. Testimonial:, Trevor Nel began the "Lonehill Security Project" in July of 2000. He witnessed one of South Africa's most violent terror attacks which has resulted in one of S.A.'s most successful stories to-date. He decided to take on a 3000 strong community of residents in Lonehill to rise up and fight fire with fire. Residents still stand amazed at the results Trevor has achieved and the buy-in he has attained from the most radically negative and apathetic who today stand as allies in a most noticeable synergy. We all acknowledge the tremendous efforts put in by this one individual and today Trevor is a household name. Tony Henry - Chairman - Lonehill Residents Association 2001

2. Testimonial:, I have had the pleasure of working with Trevor for over 4 years from mid-2000 to the end of 2004 in my capacity as co-director and, for the last three years, Chairman of the Lonehill Residents’ Association. The LRA has achieved results that are world-class in pulling together a community to manage its security and environment to a level with little or no peer. In under 5 years, the LRA has gone from a fairly typical residents’ association with little formal structure and limited means to an operation that now manages R1m a month, a security provider with some 230 people directly employed on the project, a full-time Estate Manager with a team of five gardeners, and a full-time administration service provider managing the infrastructure. A great deal of the credit for these achievements goes to the efforts of Trevor, whose vision and marketing dynamism have been major factors in driving the project forward. Trevor is clear and determined in his goals, and not one to let controversy slow him down. Chris Crozier - Chairman - Lonehill Residents Association 2002 - 2005

3. Hi Trevor, This note to wish you and all your family all the best through the coming year. I also was extremely pleased to see that everything was still intact back home and I would like to express my appreciation for what has been done by you and the rest of the team in keeping Lonehill the place where I want to continue living. Kind regards John Siddall

4. Subject: Grateful - Trevor, my best wishes and thanks for your good care - Charbonnel : Costa Rica Consulate (Lonehill)

5. Dear Trevor, I would like to applaud your dedication to the cause and thank you for your untiring efforts to get the entire Lonehill community on board. Where would we be without you. My very best Christmas wishes to you and the LRA. Yours gratefully, Jennifer Clinton

6. Dear Trevor, I would like to wish you a very happy end-of-year and all the best for 2003. You have been such an inspiration to all of us throughout this year and I am sure there have been hard times for you but we really, really appreciate all your hard work and effort. Keep your spirits up. Kind Regards Cindy and Tony Maddison

7. Dear Trevor, Wishing you and your loved ones a very Merry Christmas and a wonderful New Year. I hope next year brings you lots of good things. Thank-you so much for all you, Fidelity and the LRA have done for us Lonehill residents. Sandra Hughes

8. Trevor, I appreciate all the hard work and effort that you put into the Lonehill Security Action Group - thank you. (Letter Shortened) My unreserved good wishes to all 'Lonehillers', and God Bless all of you. Sincerely, Moyra Webster.

9. Trevor, As always - well done on your amazing efforts! I know that to keep up the momentum takes a huge effort. I would like to suggest that all residents who receive your emails, print 3 or 4 copies each and deliver them to their nearest non-contributing neighbours, every single week!. This way we can reach a larger number of these residents. Jen Atkins

10. Dear Trevor, It is really quite daunting to read in your latest bulletin that you are now into the last few months of your commitment to Lonehill. Three years ago you made an undertaking and you have surely delivered "tenfold" in the face of much mindless apathy and resistance. You have rattled many cages and created some antagonisms ... but you have kept the whole process moving forward.

I know that you have created a structure which will endure. Lonehill residents will realise, in the years ahead, how much they owe to you and your "key" group of volunteers, all of whom are busy men with little time to spare. When the LRA is finally set-up to administer and control the activities of the village the residents will have a real asset in their hands. An asset which will continue to improve the values of their homes and businesses, and the quality of their lives in this lovely suburb.

It is just astounding how long and difficult it has been to get across the idea of all working together for the general good. I was sad to note the comments of the Chairperson of Pilgrims Rest Chamber of Tourism ... " one positive aspect of the murder is that the entire community has for the first time all been working together to improve the security and infrastructure of the village" !! What a tragedy that it should need such a terrible thing to happen to make people THINK. We had a wake-up call three years ago... have our non-contributors forgotten ??

I must not write any more ... I'm sure you've heard it all ....and sometimes come close to despair. I started off to say how much all that you and your colleagues have done is appreciated by the "thinking" locals and I finish with warmest good wishes for a Blessed Christmas, and Health, Peace, Good Fortune and Happiness to you all in the New Year. From Bill and Gina Parr

PS Wishing you and your family a magic and blessed Christmas. May the New Year bring you all the joy, and peace that you so rightly deserve. You are a "giant" of a man, may the Lord continue to bless you and give you the strength you need. Love, Gina.

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Trevor adds this quick message and contact number:

'Hope you get just as inspired to make a difference in other people's lives as I do.'

Regards
Trevor Nel - (int. 2711) 705-2790 - growth@global.co.za

He's MAD - Is What they Might Say

I hardly ever concern myself for what others might say about me on the day that I die... but I suppose it might well be: 'He's MAD!'

So I'll interpret that as being one who Makes A Difference - a meaningful difference - in the lives of others.

A couple of years ago I wrote a piece entitled: 'Here's How YOU Can Make A Meaningful Difference In Other People's Lives'.

Sub-title: 'How You Can Receive Tons Of ‘Thank You’ Testimonials'

I'll share that piece on this blog in bite-size chunks... here's the intro:

Yes, YOU too... can receive grateful, heartfelt 'Thank-You' testimonials flowing into your inbox almost every day, just like these:

Dear Trevor,
'WOW..!! Thank you for an inspirational and stimulating morning and for the obvious effort and preparation you put into making it so successful. Bless you for sharing your God given talents, for inspiring and helping so many people - we can only benefit from your experience, enthusiasm and dedication to what you do.'
Kind regards, Maureen Cheetham

Hello Trevor, 'Another very rich day yesterday – I can see why it took your whole life to prepare for it..! What I‘m seeing of your focussed life is a good wake up call. You gave another good lot of practical & pertinent literature... and access to videos that are very valuable, refreshing, simplifying and invigorating. Left with a feeling of great value (again). Many thanks for the on-going education.'
Kind regards, Paul Bullock

Dear Trevor, 'Thank you from the bottom of my heart for a truly memorable morning and for sharing so much of yourself and your beliefs with us, you were superb. You have underlined and underscored everything that I have read and attempted to live... about how to live a joyful and happy life and the tools we were given at birth in order to do so. The most awesome part was how you opened your life to us and shared your beliefs, and of course on looking into those more closely, therein, is plain to see, lies your success. What EXCITED me the most as a LEARNING experience... was the knowledge that with commitment and the right attitude anything can be achieved.'
Kind Regards, Camila Visser (since passed away)

Hi, my name is Trevor Nel... and I enjoy the rare privilege of receiving 'Thank-You' Testimonials, just like these (above), almost every day... and I want to share with you how YOU can experience this wonderful privilege too.

It does not matter wherever I go... whatever I do... whether in my Personal, Business or Community life... these 'Thank-You' Testimonials come pouring into my email inbox in, literally, their hundreds and thousands.

I'll share some of these awesome letters in the next post.

It is an incredible experience..!

Regards
Trevor Nel - 011 - 705-2790 - www.innercircleforum.com
trevor@innercircleforum.com